Monthly Reflections is a new series, where I reflect on life, being a Millennial and everything that comes to my mind.


It has been raining a lot this past week. I must say, that winter this year in Texas has been quite unusual. From icy roads at the beginning of the year, to summer temperatures the past few weeks, to now heavy showers and thunderstorms this past week. I am so happy it's finally the weekend, and all I can do is lazy around my place without worrying about having to be somewhere. 

So instead I am taking this time to myself, to reflect on this month and decide what I'd like to accomplish next month. Can you believe, March is upon us?? It always amazes me how time seems to slip through our fingers. Sometimes it scares me. It scares me to see how fast we age, and how little time we have to do everything we want to do in life. It's easy to say: do what you want to do, go on and chase your dreams. Reality ends up dictating our choices: the jobs we hold, the circumstances we found ourselves in and other less appealing sides of being an adult in this age. So how do we reconcile our desires and this reality which we can't escape?

Honestly, I ask myself this question all the time. How do I become the person I want to be? Working all the time is exhausting. Since I started my (not so new) full-time job last July, I have been feeling more and more like a hamster trapped in its cage; forever spinning the wheel to get somewhere. Do you know what I mean? So here I am, rethinking my choices, and how I spend my days. Work is important, because it helps provide for everyday needs, and save for a better future. But I do not want to sacrifice the present for the sake of a "better" future. In that spirit, I want to set a few goals for myself, as I approach the end of another decade of my life. So here we go:

Say no.

I do not like to disappoint people. If I can help, I always say yes, even if the request comes at an inopportun time for me. I always feel guilty when I say no, but why should I? It's emotionally draining and people are not always realizing the sacrifices you make to be nice, and doing them a favor.

Be gentle to my body.

Sometime at the end of last year, my dedication to proper diet and exercise went out of the window. I guess the stress of getting robbed (a story for another time), having to prove myself at my new job, moving into a new place just took a toll on me, and yes, I gave up. It's time to get back on the saddle, and re-nourish my body and mind so that I can feel better as I face life.

Meet new people.

I am a pretty social butterfly. I believe it to be one of my qualities. However, I have noticed that most of the people I have met (and I am happy I did) have been bound to the safe zones of school or work. I want to meet people outside of my environment, and see what their worlds look like. I strongly believe we learn something from every person we meet, and I am an avid learner.

Explore more of the world.

And by world, I don't necessarily mean travel to new countries. There is always a new world that we have not explored outside of our backyard. Our own cities offer so much to do and see, that we often overlook for the most popular destinations. I want to change that. I want to discover everything from nearby to afar.

Be OK to do things on my own.

How many times have I wanted to go and do something, but had to pass the opportunity, because none of my friends were available to join me? I don't want to miss on events and experiences anymore because I feel awkward to go on my own. I am a grown up after all! I can do as I please! (lol) More seriously though, I don't want to constantly wait on others to do fun things. I am the sole master of my ship, and I get to decide when and where to sail!

Improve on skills.

Mainly, work on improving my short story writing skills, photography skills, and knitting skills. I will share the last two processes over here, as time goes by. If you are interested in following my short stories writing adventures, feel free to join me at my dedicated blog: A Tale of Short Stories

Goal setting at the end of February kind of sounds silly, doesn't it? But, why not? I want to use these goals to rebalance my life, to build my happiness blueprint which will enable me to become whole.

Now the big question: How do you reconcile your dreams with reality?